Assemble your support system
Divorce is one of the most challenging, life changing events a person can go through. That’s why it’s important to assemble your own personal army of support before you start the process. Trust me, this step will help to spare you heartache in the future.
Consider hiring a professional therapist/counselor
When I was going through my divorce, it turned out to be a critical, for me, to have the professional support of a licensed therapist. Not only can the right therapist help you to navigate the uncharted waters of divorce in a compassionate and loving way they can also help you deal with the unhealed wounds that emerge during the process. It can be difficult, and you might need to meet with several therapists/counselors to find the right one, but in the end it is definitely worth it.
Make a plan
Get out a pen and paper and start jotting down key points to drive your conversation with your spouse. This will help keep you on track when you have your difficult conversation with your soon to be ex-partner. Next look at your upcoming family plans and pinpoint a time and place when you will talk. Detail the action items that need to come out of the conversation as well. Will someone move out or will you coexist in the same space? If you have a pet, where will they go? Children, will you start a schedule. How will you handle current bills? Not everything will be determined at this point, but it is a good idea to start thinking about the initial outcomes.
Start saving yo' money
Getting ready to uncouple means financially preparing too. Divorce can be full of unknowns, so the best protection is preparation. Make sure to explore and review the divorce laws in your state because some of these funds that you save for your divorce will need to be shared during the divorce. I’m not a divorce lawyer, so I did my homework and relied on my divorce lawyer when I had questions.
Find your compassion and have some for yourself
When you are getting divorced the process can be a long hard road to travel. During the darkest days you might find it difficult to find love in your heart for your soon to be ex, much less yourself. Find ways to integrate compassion and gratefulness into your daily routine to help you find your balance. Daily time to meditate can be a life saver allowing you to find yourself in the whirlwind of changes, and I highly recommend that you keep a gratitude journal. This is invaluable to look back on on the toughest of days.
Do your research!
Divorce is a personal experience and ultimately it’s what you make of it. It can be messy and toxic or it can be an experience of compassion.
As a practicing energy healer and founder of Spotted Owl Healing Junkie, I am dedicated to promoting self love and healing within those I work with and encounter on a daily basis. As a proud member of the Walker River Paiute Tribe, I pair energy healing with techniques cultivated from the earth and practiced by my indigenous ancestors to develop tools and practices everyone can use to heal. My work with individual clients uses energy healing and vibrational modalities to help alleviate self worth challenges, heartache, sadness, grief, anxiety and general malaise. I am offering you a way to build a stronger connection with yourself, ancestors and guides. My work is deeply rooted in the knowing that we are all connected.
Today, I am hoping to connect you with the powers you already have within yourself and assist you on your own personal healing journey.
Sarah ~ Aayapü Muhu’u ~ Spotted Owl